So typically the kitchen is my domain, but I wanted to expose Cai to some baking so I've been trying to make a point of including him in my domestic adventures. So far we've made brownies, cookies, and granola. Can I just say though, the older Cai gets and the more I do with him, the more I realize that I'm a control freak! And I'm also ALWAYS in a rush! I was reading an article yesterday that was completely fascinating about women and they're unrealistic expectations of themselves. For years now I have struggled with feeling inadequate as a wife and mom if X, Y, and Z is not perfect. And really that word is the center of my inpatience and control....PERFECT. What is perfection really? Nothing but an illusion honestly. Even if I make things seem "perfect," most are intelligent enough to see through that facade, and if they see through it anyway, why do I insist on keeping up appearances?!?!?! Its maddening I tell ya! Take housework for example...anyone that knows me knows that I am NOT the best housekeeper, yet I feel the need to make sure my house is 100% SPOTLESS if I know there is even a REMOTE chance that someone will stop by. Now lets look at this reversed....am I completely repulsed if I stop at a friends house and she has magazines and coupons and general stuff piled on her dining room table....NO! So why the double standard?!?!?!
I made a New Years Resolution to try to simplify and go with the flow, and for those of you who know me, you know that I have bombed BIG TIME on the simplify part! I'm still working at it though!
Anyway, I drew such inspiration from this article and wanted to post something that really struck me:
Done is BETTER than perfect! Think about it, would you rather hang out with someone who is calm and collected and FUN with dust bunnies in her corners, or a top speed maniac who is so overwhelmed and anxious that she can't even have fun?!?!
PS-So I hope you all remember this post when you come to my house for tv night....it may look perfectly clean on the outside, but don't open any closed doors...I can't guarantee what may come pouring out! ;0P
Here's some pictures of our brownie time:
2 comments:
Yum, brownies! That's so special that you do that with Cai - you're building strong ties for later!
Great attitude, too. I struggle with similar feelings, and for me at least, I know it's a pride-based thing. You know, the ol' "I want to be perfect so I can feel better about myself" . . . me me me me, when I am a better mommy and wife if I relax and concentrate more on what's best for them . . . .
Great reminder for me, thanks!
Come on over anytime you want to feel better about yourself or your house. haha!
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